GETTING THROUGH YOUR "SOMETHING"
By laceylee, Feb 1 2016 03:28PM
You know those people that always seem to be in a good mood? Always smiling. Always upbeat and positive. It seems as if they just don’t have a bad day. Chances are these “happy” people are probably going through A LOT more than anyone would know. Some people just have better ways of not showing pain whether it's physical or emotional than others.
Some may say I am one of those people.
I have always been an open book about my life and all the “somethings” that I have dealt with (and continue) simply because I learned it has helped others get through their “something.” I get that not everyone knows me in that way which is where the motivation came to discuss this topic.
Don’t worry, I’m not going to try and convince you that you should walk around like you are a ray of sunshine every day but I DO want to help you be the best version of yourself. I personally believe what we have going on internally, is a major reason people feel like they hit one roadblock after another when it comes to achieving their personal fitness/health goals. Our mental and emotional health is just as important than our physical health.
One of my favorite books written by an amazing woman, Robin Roberts → “Everybody's Got Something” is exactly why I want to share a little bit of why I am the way I am. My hope is it will help you get through your “something” with a smile and little bit more ease. Because at the end of the day - everybody’s got something.
The smile you always see on my face and my positive attitude are simply a part of my DNA. If you have ever met my Mom - you know what I mean. Being happy, loving, positive, goofy, etc. luckily comes natural...especially the goofy part ;-) I absolutely LOVE helping people and can find the positive and/or humor out of most anything. I’m not going to sugarcoat it - I’m human and have bad moments/days/moods but for the most part I realize life could be much worse. The curveballs life likes to throw my way have taught me so much about myself and about life. Life is not always fair but one thing these curveballs in life will do is make you a better person - that is - if you choose to learn from them. Luckily - I have alway chosen to learn from them. Had I not - I’m fairly certain I would not be able to deal with my current obstacle (Lyme Disease) without going insane.
I can’t say my tips are the magic potion to a better life but it has worked (and continues) for me and I hope it will work for you. It has helped me stay positive and most importantly remain sane during insane times in my life. This is especially for ANYONE going through an injury, setback, stuck in a rut, challenge in life, etc. Whatever your “something” is - know it doesn’t define you or your ability to heal, change, and transform. We are ALL a work in progress. We are ALL trying our best to navigate through lifes ups and downs. You just have to want to be the best version of yourself bad enough to put the effort in.
YOU are stronger and more resilient than you believe you are!
TIPS TO HELP YOU GET THROUGH YOUR “SOMETHING”
1. ACCEPT WHAT IS
“If you correct your mind, the rest of your life will fall into place” ~ Lao Tzu
If it's something you cannot change - for example - an injury/illness/disease - accept you have been given a small set back. Stop fighting it as you cannot change things right now. Make sure you are doing all you can to better your situation and allow yourself to acknowledge that. Once you accept the "setback" you will no longer be a prisoner to your situation. You free yourself to deal the best you can with the challenge ahead of you. You will soon find yourself going through your days will a little more ease...and dare I say it....happiness and/or having a positive attitude. Be okay when/if you have an "off" day. It’s not realistic to be a ray of sunshine 24/7. If this is a new way of thinking it will require "practice" as it will not just happen overnight. Put up little notes in places you will see often (bathroom mirror, car) that will remind you to have this frame of mind.
2. FOCUS ON WHAT YOU CAN DO
“Don’t let what you can’t do, stop you from what you can do” ~ John Wooden
It is easy to think about the things that have been taken away from us or what we cannot do. If you have already accepted "what is" then focusing on what you CAN do will come a bit easier. I promise you - there ARE positives in your life and things you CAN continue doing despite whatever your “something” is. You just have to practice focusing on those aspects of your life. If you have injured yourself and are bummed about not working out - find exercises you CAN do. For example - if you hurt your foot, you can do upper body and core exercises. It's not what you may want out of your workouts but it certainly is better than not working out at all. This is most definitely a mindset that requires practice. I personally never thought that I would be happy doing just 5 minutes of “exercise” each day. I say “exercise” very loosely because I can only do a handful of upper body exercises. For someone that 100% loves everything about exercise, I am grateful to be able to do the little I do. This mindset for me did not happen overnight but if I focused on ALL that I cannot do...well….I’d be locked away in a looney bin.
3. REFLECT AND LEARN
“Facing difficulties is inevitable, learning from them is optional” ~ John Maxwell
At the end of the day, you have to WANT to work on yourself. There is always something we can learn from every experience we go through - the good and the bad. Take the time to reflect back on a situation to see what could have gone differently and what you could do if you ever go through it again. This reflection could even help you avoid the situation in the future or help a friend who is going through something similar. I can think back to many situations in my life that were negative at the time and find something positive that came out of it.
“Life is 10% of what happens to you and 90% of how your react” ~ Charles R. Swindoll
This is a tough one for a lot of people. It’s easy to be angry and hold onto resentment. By forgiving the person or situation, you accept what happened but you no longer hold it against them. Forgiving allows you to move forward without holding on to negative feelings. I can tell you from personal experience how powerful this can be. I was put in a very unique situation in 1997 that lasted for another 13 years. To put a long story short - this changed how I lived my life in numerous ways. Of all the years of working to better myself from this experience, forgiving was something I never thought about. I was presented with an opportunity to forgive and without a second thought - I did. It took an enormous weight (that I didn’t even realize I was carrying) off my shoulders and I never looked back again. You have to WANT to “let go” and truly forgive in order for it to work the magic is works.
5. HAVE A SUPPORT SYSTEM
“Sometimes we just need someone to simply be there. Not to fix anything or do anything in particular, but just to let us feel that we are cared for and supported” ~Unknown
Make sure your friends and family support you and bring positivity to your life. Your friends and family only want the best for you, want to help where they can and if they could - take away what is causing you "pain." Having a support system around you is key. Many cannot go through a "set back" alone. This can simply mean - someone to talk to, meet up for coffee, watch T.V with, etc. If you push down feelings/frustrations/etc. and/or mask these feelings with other things (food, alcohol, shopping, etc.) it will backfire quickly on you. Make sure you are keeping things real and going back to #1 (accepting what is) and #2 (focuses on what you can do) as often as you can, if/when you are feeling defeated and/or having a bad day.